It’s one thing to have friends of one’s own. That’s normal and healthy. It’s quite another thing to have friends who are actively anti-social to one’s wife. The question you’re asking your husband is “why is this OK with you?” Even if it seems inconsequential to him, he should recognize the way this whole situation made you feel.

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who is hurt that her husband's friend and wife don't like her.

A couple was going to invite the letter writer and husband to their party – but then other friends said don’t.

My husband will hang out with his friend and has invited the couple to our home when I’m not home. On one occasion, they came over to get ideas for their huge backyard project. My husband even helped them several times by working on their backyard and he helps them out from time to time whenever they need help with something.